On Consent

July 30, 2014 In The News Comments (0) 185

I’m not sure if this needs a trigger warning, but I’m putting one here just in case.

 

We’ve been over this.

And yet lots of you still aren’t getting it. I read this article, about some shitbag who took advantage of a vulnerable young woman at a Keith Urban concert, and in the comment section I still find a bunch of men saying things like “we don’t know all the facts,” and “women are fickle,” and “she’s probably lying to defend her image.”

So yeah, misogyny and patriarchy and all that. We, the males (I am one, after all) are still failing. Miserably. But here’s the topper, and just because I’m quoting one crapface doesn’t mean there aren’t dozens more who posted variations on this argument:

“Have you honestly never gone from kissing someone to having sex without directing getting concrete consent? …the point being stands that sexual activity once begun is interpreted as acceptance if continued and ‘lead to believe’ until one party claims otherwise. With zero acknowledgement that the continuation of sexual activity should stop, and thus continued, how is one to know what is or is not wanted?”

Ugh. No.

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The Elephant in the Room

July 29, 2014 Comics Comments (0) 119

This cartoon also appears at Rebel News.

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Public Speech is Opt-In

July 25, 2014 Politics / Religion, Pop Culture Comments (0) 332

In the years before the Internet, engaging in public debate and discussion required time and effort. One might print books or pamphlets, post flyers, speak into a bullhorn, or speak at some public forum. Each of these decisions, barring specific measures to preserve anonymity, carried certain risks of consequence–including, in many cases, prosecution, imprisonment, or execution. “We must all hang together,” Ben Franklin famously quipped at the signing of the Declaration of Independence, “or assuredly we shall all hang separately.”

The advent of the Internet, and particularly social networks, has made public speech exponentially faster and more accessible. To enter public debate today requires only a web browser and a few taps at a keyboard or smartphone screen. Perhaps because of the speed and ease with which we can now communicate, many who choose to enter the public dialog fail to consider the potential consequences for their actions–but those consequences remain, and they can be severe.

When Justine Sacco, a PR exec with less than 200 followers, tweeted a racist HIV joke before a flight to Africa, she probably didn’t consider that she would rise to top the Trending Topics and ultimately lose her job. Online activist Suey Park seemed unprepared for the backlash against her #CancelColbert tweet, and the originator of the #YesAllWomen hashtag was so traumatized by the abuse she received that she now chooses anonymity.

I have argued before, in the wake of the “Twitter Block Scandal,” that choosing to use social media, and Twitter in particular, is a choice to be a public figure. In a post this week on Medium, Anil Dash presents a different view, arguing that modern concepts of “public” and “private” are antiquated and unsuited for the digital age, that social network users are exploited by the media and technology industries for profit, and that legislators and policy-makers are complicit in this exploitation. Continue Reading

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…A Little Rain Must Fall

July 22, 2014 New York City, Personal Comments (0) 193

This is what it looks like in my apartment building when it rains.

20140715_083507It isn’t safe to use the stairs, you see, because the skylight above the stairwell is broken and massive quantities of rainwater make the stairs slippery. This has been the solution, mind you, for well over six months now. Once or twice when I have used the stairs in the rain, I’ve had to carry an umbrella. Continue Reading

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Americans’ Political Views Make No Sense [and That’s Not Funny]

July 16, 2014 In The News, Politics / Religion Comments (0) 312

Derek Thompson at the Atlantic yesterday posted “Millenials’ Political Views Don’t Make Any Sense,” a brief reflection on a number of research studies into the political orientation of Americans born between 1985 and 1996 (or so). It’s something to which I’m dying to write a long rebuttal, but unfortunately I have actual work to do. So for now all you’re getting is my thesis and a couple of points.

I’ve previously expressed my exasperation with any piece predicated on sorting Americans into “generations.” In general it strikes me as lazy, sloppy, and arbitrary. It’s also a favorite pastime of every ‘generation’ to complain about the lazy, narcissistic kids who’ve had everything handed to them, and it’s tiresome. That said, Thompson’s piece is at least based on actual research, and doesn’t once use the term “selfie culture,” so I’m only half-annoyed by the premise.

What I’m more annoyed by is how the piece ascribes political views to Millenials that seem shared by nearly all Americans.

Young people support big government, unless it costs any more money. They’re for smaller government, unless budget cuts scratch a program they’ve heard of. They’d like Washington to fix everything, just so long as it doesn’t run anything.

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Bellevue’s Secret Garden

July 15, 2014 New York City Comments (0) 140

On Friday Liz and I took a walk, winding our way from Bellevue Hospital to Williamsburg. We found a beautiful little secret garden behind the hospital with some amazing handmade treasures. It was particularly striking with the enormous car rack as a backdrop.

I snapped a lot of photos. Here are a few of my favorites. You can view the whole set in this Flickr album.

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One Last Thing

July 14, 2014 Comics Comments (0) 117

This comic also appears at Rebel News.

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Boyfriend / Girlfriend Tag [Video]

July 12, 2014 Personal, Video Blog Comments (0) 426

Okay, sure, this “Boyfriend Tag” thing was popular way back in February, but we thought it looked like fun and WE ARE RELEVANT DAMMIT. Look how eager she is to embarrass me on camera!

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Bedroom Archaeology

July 9, 2014 Personal, Video Blog Comments (0) 250

Visiting my old bedroom for the July 4 holiday, I decided to share some relics of my childhood and adolescence. Mostly it’s artwork and nerdy stuff, especially STUFFY CTHULU DOLL.

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