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June 2, 2015 Blogging, Pop Culture Comments (0) 576

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Special thanks to you, person who Goggled The Babadook.

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Here’s what you should think about before making that Bruce Jenner joke

February 4, 2015 Gay and Lesbian, In The News, Pop Culture Comments (294) 5420

Update, June 1 2015: This article was written in February, when Caitlyn Jenner still publicly identified as Bruce, and employs the name and pronouns that she chose at the time. While I’m at it, congratulations to Caitlyn for coming out and living a life that is true to herself.

I have a relative, a nasty closed-minded kind of guy–homophobic, misogynistic, and just generally lousy. A couple of years ago, he saw fit to apologize to me for any gay jokes that might have offended me. I suspect this was prompted by other relatives, and not by any inner guilt or empathy–by my best estimation, this individual isn’t capable of feeling such things.

“I’m sorry,” he said. “I hope you know I was just kidding, and I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings.”

I accepted the apology, surprised as I was to receive it, but I took the opportunity to deliver a little lecture. I explained that, as a man in my late 20’s (at the time) I was secure in my queer identity–certainly secure enough that the jokes and opinions of small-minded bigots didn’t hurt my feelings. But, I said, it wasn’t me he should be concerned about. Continue Reading

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